I am the mother of three boys. This role is special. It is unique. I will be loved, very loved, by my boys. I will be a queen, most of the time, in our home. I accept all this loveliness. Yet, ever since learning our third healthy baby is a boy, I have had to do a bit of soul searching. I am going to be a mom of boys. What does that mean for my family?
“Sons are the anchors of a mother's life.” ~ Sophocles
I am grateful for our healthy babies and growing family. There is no mourning for not having a girl. Let's be honest, though, being the mom of boys changes my role and the dynamic within our family. What do I offer them? What will I give them as they make the journey into becoming men?
“Men are what their mothers made them.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
What unique perspective on the world can I bring to them as their mother?
Forget compassion. Forget kindness. Forget thoughtfulness. Forget patience. Men are equally as wonderful at delivering those messages to children, especially my man. He is an amazing role model. He works hard. He is patient and unique in his perspectives and wisdom he brings our home. He is a partner to his wife, the mother, in every sense of the word. He supports me in ways I never thought possible of a partner. Best of all, he is an extraordinary father who brings compassion, kindness and thoughtfulness to our home. Our boys don't need their mom to bring all those “soft qualities” to the table.
Here is my list. What would you add?
Women are CREATIVE. They are scientists (Marie Curie), aviators (Amelia Earhart), artists (Frida Kahlo), engineers (there are so many I cannot choose only one), pioneers (Florence Nightengale), politicians (Abigail Adams), zoologists (Jane Goodall), spiritual leaders (Mother Teresa), environmental stewards (Rachel Carson) and philosophers (Sappho).
Women are a part of HISTORY, more so than most history books reveal to us. There is great truth in the saying “behind every great man is a great woman.” Read any literature on the relationship between Abigail Adams and her husband, a founding father, John Adams. She was his confident. She supported him. She guided him to make the right, hard decisions.
Women are RESILIENT. Helen Keller first comes to mind when I think of this point. This quote from Abigail Adams to her husband in the book My Dearest Friend Letters of Abigail and John Adams captures the essence of this one: “Its never to late to get back on your feet though we wont live forever make sure you accomplish what you were put here for.” ~ Abigail Adams
Women are DOERS. Susan B. Anthony is a wonderful example of this point. I love this quote from Abigail Adams: “We have too many high-sounding words, and too few actions that correspond with them.”
Women are COURAGEOUS. Indira Gandhi is one example of many to teach my sons.
Women are FIGHTERS. Harriet Tubman led the road to achieving equal rights. Her strength is difficult to rival.
What I have realized the most from this soul searching is how much there is to learn, for myself. How extraordinary to learn along side my sons?
Take a moment to browse the extraordinary A Mighty Girl. You will not only be inspired but you will find resources a plenty of examples of women – young and old, past and present – who have contributed amazingly to our world.
Thank you for reading,
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