I am not alone in admitting that yelling is a natural instinct when my blood begins to boil and my children push all the right buttons. The thing is that yelling never makes me feel better and it certainly isn't effective at making my child behave any better. So, I work EVERY SINGLE DAY to not yell. Like I said, not yelling does not come easy to me. I have to work hard at it. I have to practice. I compiled a list to remind myself of ways to avoid yelling at my children. Below I share the list of ways to help us stop yelling.
Ways to Help Us Stop Yelling
Remember that your child loves you
Enforce boundaries by using the phrase “I won't let you…” or “I can't let you…”. I have found this approach makes me more objective when “disciplining” my children.
Connect by moving physically closer to the child or children, get down to their level, and look them in the eye
Use a visual for yourself and your child as Amanda from Dirt and Boogers describes in her post
Anticipate the tantrum or melt down so you can be more emotionally prepared to stay calm and cool
Find your anger triggers. Amanda from Dirt and Boogers walks us through one way to become aware of your anger triggers.
Use Put Ups like Alissa from Creative with Kids explains so well
Acknowledge the emotion
Don't take your child's behavior, or harsh words, personally
Deep breath, close your eyes, & recite a mantra
Make a family commitment
Use your eyes to communicate as the signal to the child
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