Golden Responses for the Impatient Child

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This post include 8 awesome tips on communicating with kids. My 3.5 year old often makes requests, then quickly loses patience with my not meeting his request fast enough. Sound familiar? As you know, I work really hard to be a positive parent and to respect my children and their developing selves. I have to tell you, though, I have a tough time with this one. I feel frustrated and lose patience myself.

How many times can a child ask the same question in a period of 30 seconds?

So, in order to avoid losing myself in a warp of sarcasm (by me) and confusion (by my child), I worked hard to think about responses to mitigate my annoyance. Here are a few Golden Responses for the Impatient Child. I'll use a request for food.

8 Secrets to Communicating with Kids

1. Acknowledgement: Bend down to his level or walk over to him, look into his eyes, and say, ‘I'm sorry that you think I cannot hear you, but I can hear you. Your toast is almost ready.'
2. Involvement: Ask if he wants to help prepare his snack.
3. Empathy: Say to him, ‘You're ready for your toast, huh? You must be hungry. It is hard waiting when you're so hungry, isn't it?'
4. Observation Statements: “I have your apple. I am getting out the slicer now. I am slicing your apple. I am getting out the peanut butter…”
5. Repeat: “Oh, you want apple slices and peanut butter. I understand.”
6. Guidance: Offer to show him where to get an activity out while he waits for his snack
7. Check-In: “I already answered your question. Did you not hear my answer?”
8. Acknowledgement through a question: I love this one borrowed from my RIE/Mindful Parenting FB group:
   • “Mumma, I want some milk.”
   • “Ok, I'd love to pour a glass for you.”
   • “Mumma, I want some milk.”
   • “Do you want some milk?”
   • “Yes.”