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[Montessori Parenting] 75+ Ways to Raise a Montessori Kid

When my son was 2.5-years-old, he hopped off his chair and walked over to a cabinet. He pulled out dishes and glasses, then ran over to the kitchen table and began setting places for himself and his brothers.

This scenario is an example of Montessori parenting within the context of Maria Montessori’s Theory.

How Do I Become a Montessori Parent?

Montessori embodies this act. Respecting the child. Giving him space and time gives him the opportunity to grow and to develop in a healthy and productive way. 

A mom and daughter meditating together.

Related Post: How to Discipline Effectively in a Montessori Environment

Montessori is a lifestyle. Dr. Montessori, although she wrote extensively about Montessori as an educational approach, did not intend for this approach to guide children to be limited to the classroom.

Quite the contrary, Montessori, with the focus on the development of the whole child, should embrace the child’s life as a whole, including his time in the classroom and outside the classroom, whether with Mother Nature or at home with family. 

What is Montessori at Home & Montessori Parenting?

What is Montessori Parenting?

Montessori parenting? Ahh. Yes, it is a thing. Sitting at my laptop one early morning as my oldest son (then a toddler) and my husband slept, I breathed in the silence and began to read an article introducing Montessori.

I stopped and laughed out loud. You see, my family embraced Montessori, only we never knew “it” – my mom’s parenting style – had a name.  I was drawn to Montessori immediately and deeply.

The moment I read the quote “Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed,” I felt an immediate kindred spirit with Dr. Montessori. Everything I continued to read about the Montessori philosophy resonated with me as an individual, a teacher, and a parent.

For more detail on Why I Chose Montessori for my family, check out my blog. By the way, here are some of my favorite Montessori books for parents.

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How to Define Montessori at Home and Montessori Parenting

Montessori parenting is a big part of the Montessori philosophy. Bridging the gap between home and school is critical to raising a Montessori child. Work with your child’s teachers to make that happen.

Related Post: 12 Ways to Integrate Montessori at Home

Life offers moments to guide children. Let them put on their own shoes. Offer them support without doing it for them. Don’t assume you have the answer or can solve their problem.

Children are capable of doing and being so much.

Respecting the potential of our kids to grow and develop based on their own instincts and tendencies is just as much a part of the Montessori classroom as it is a part of the Montessori home environment. 

A child reaching for a strawberry.

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Opening up our eyes to that possibility is key to integrating Montessori at home. At the risk of sounding cliche, the world is our classroom. What Dr. Montessori emphasized included an approach to communicating with children, disciplining children, guiding children, and preparing the environment to ensure success in a child’s development. 

A young girl taking a photograph.

75 Ways to Montessori Parenting

  1. Read Montessori: a Modern approach
  2. Embrace the idea that Montessori is a lifestyle and not simply an approach that begins and ends at classroom doors
  3. Invest in stools so the child can reach the sink, cabinets, and shelves
  4. Use real dishware; Avoid plastic toys, cups, dishes
  5. Embrace the Montessori Coat Flip
  6. Practice simplicity
  7. Be a model of behavior no matter what you’re doing in life
  8. Help a child with scientific thinking
  9. Think about history not in dates to remember but instead as a sense of duration and passage of time (which typically isn’t cognitively possible to comprehend until 7 or 8 years old). Teaching kids about time can be fun!
  10. Use REAL images (aka AVOID cartoons)
  11. Hang a coat rack at your child’s level
  12. Allow kids to be creative
  13. Consider a faucet extender
  14. Create a culture basket
  15. Wait for your child to put his coat on
  16. Give your child space and time to put on his shoes
  17. Practice Letter Writing
  18. Explore the outdoors with these books about rocks, ants, bears, and seeds.
  19. Teach kids to code (Maria Montessori would approve of moving along with the times)
  20. Focus on sounds, not memorization, of letters
  21. Use concrete objects that kids can get their hands on while learning
  22. Teach children about what it means to be courageous
  23. Read up on positive discipline and respectful parenting
  24. Learn about ways to encourage children with writing
  25. Create the environment for the discovery of reading and writing
  26. Practice observing your child for at least five minutes a day
  27. Don’t intervene in conflict or struggle
  28. Remember Practical Life is about focus, completion of a work cycle, preparation for writing, and independence.
  29. Cook with your kids
  30. Put together an easy Letter Sound Work for your kids
  31. Always move left to right
  32. Allow your child to zip up on his own
  33. Make smelling bottles
  34. Don’t talk down to your child.
  35. Speak in a kind, firm tone.
  36. Have a Family Reading Time
  37. Learn photography with your kids
  38. Subscribe to one of these amazing monthly kits
  39. Read (a lot) with your child
  40. Establish a routine with kids
  41. Commit to these 5 Rock Star Responses to Kids during Challenging Moments
  42. Create a music basket
  43. Learn about Electricity with Kids
  44. Learn the 3 Period Lesson
  45. Create object boxes
  46. Expect a lot from your child because she is capable
  47. Take Sensorial Activities outside
  48. Leave her room to develop at her pace
  49. Allow him to make his discoveries because then he will be a lover of learning for life
  50. Go and be outside
  51. Practice Mindfulness
  52. Implement yoga into your daily routine with your kids
  53. Listen to your kids
  54. Kneel down at the child’s eye level when speaking with him
  55. Use phrases other than “What’s Wrong?”
  56. Learn math outside
  57. Better communicate with your child with these rock star tips
  58. Don’t be afraid of insects
  59. Take Language activities outside
  60. Help create a sense of awe and wonder in a child by using questions to lead learning
  61. Garden with Kids
  62. Make time for dinner & family time
  63. Practice grace & courtesy
  64. Create a peace table in your home
  65. Accept that all children exist on the education spectrum.
  66. No two children are alike
  67. Children crave a gentle, calm leader
  68. Focus on developing a child’s emotional intelligence
  69. Be a role model in your relationship with your partner
  70. Do listening activities with kids
  71. Take Practical Life Outside
  72. Purchase garden tools for kids
  73. Practice inquiry-based learning
  74. Read Madeline Levine’s book “Teach Children Well” about redefining success

What are your biggest struggles with being (or wanting to be) a Montessori parent? If you didn’t already get enough, check out 15 of the Best Montessori Quotes for Parents.


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