20 Ways to Praise a Child Without Ruining Him

I have never been a fan of “praising” for the sake of praising, to build up a child’s self confidence without connecting it to a true, real effort. There is no doubt, however, that praising a child with words can be powerful. Over time, however, I have come to realize that there is room for praise as long as it is specific to a task and focused on the child’s effort.

After years, I have embraced the idea that within specific context praise has its place. I don’t reward but I will enforce moments of good behavior. Here are twenty praise phrases that help me every day.

“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.”
― Anne Frank

How to Praise a Child with Words

I hope you find this list of encouraging words and phrases useful in your daily life. Finding ways to compliment a child isn’t always easy if you want that child to focus on the effort and not the outcome. 

Here are 20 ways to praise your child with words:

1. I love watching you build with legos.
2. I love hearing you tell stories.
3. Wow! That tower is really high!
4. I love you.
5. I’m so proud of you. You worked so hard.
6. You’re so focused.
7. You’re working hard.
8. I am so impressed by your work.
9. You have worked so hard and have improved.
10. Your smile is the best.
11. Amazing. I am so proud of you!
12. How artistic!
13. Yes! You got it!
14. I appreciate how nicely you put on your coat before we left for school.
15. You have so many great ideas!
16. You’re so sweet and caring with your baby brother.
17. Thank you for being so thoughtful about dinner.
18. Thank you for letting me know you don’t like broccoli.
19. Thank you for being so helpful in getting into the car for school.
20. I noticed how you were able to calm your body down on your own. Well done!

Did you enjoy this post? What are your ideas about praising in the Montessori way?

Marnie