I have never been a fan of “praising” for the sake of praising, to build up a child’s self-confidence without connecting it to a true, real effort. There is no doubt, however, that praising a child with words can be powerful.
Over time, however, I have come to realize that there is room for praise as long as it is specific to a task and focused on the child’s effort. After years, I have embraced the idea that within specific context praise has its place. I don’t reward but I will enforce moments of good behavior.
Here are twenty praise phrases that help me every day.
The Science Behind Praise
I hope you find this list of encouraging words and phrases useful in your daily life. Finding ways to compliment a child isn’t always easy if you want that child to focus on the effort and not the outcome.
Types of Praise
- I love watching you build with legos.
- I love hearing you tell stories.
- Wow! That tower is really high!
- I love you.
- I’m so proud of you. You worked so hard.
- You’re so focused.
- You’re working hard.
- I am so impressed by your work.
- You have worked so hard and have improved.
- Your smile is the best.
- Amazing. I am so proud of you!
- How artistic!
- Yes! You got it!
- I appreciate how nicely you put on your coat before we left for school.
- You have so many great ideas!
- You’re so sweet and caring with your baby brother.
- Thank you for being so thoughtful about dinner.
- Thank you for letting me know you don’t like broccoli.
- Thank you for being so helpful in getting into the car for school.
- I noticed how you were able to calm your body down on your own. Well done!
Did you enjoy this post? What are your ideas about praising in the Montessori way?