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Home » Parenting » Conflict Resolution – How to Help Toddlers & Preschoolers Learn to Communicate Better

Conflict Resolution – How to Help Toddlers & Preschoolers Learn to Communicate Better

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Ah, the age-old question: how do we help our children (and ourselves for that matter) with conflict resolution? Teaching effective methods of conflict resolution can start early in life. Respecting the child is a key tenet of the Montessori Method.

Teaching effective communication can be tricky given you’re also responsible for guiding the child in more challenging circumstances that may require discipline. Plus we want our kids to learn how to get along with people but don’t want to force them to share. There are conflict resolution techniques parents, teachers, and caretakers can embrace to pave a smoother path for a young child.

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“What we are teaches the child far more than what we say, so we must be what we want our children to become.” ~ Joseph Chilton Pearce

Must Use Ideas for Conflict Resolution

  1. Model self-regulation by taking deep breaths to calm down before resolving conflict
  2. Comfort & include the child
    • “I see that Chris is crying. What should you do to make him feel better?”
    • “What happened when you bumped Chris?”
    • “I noticed he fell over when you pushed him.”
  3. Model gentle touch
  4. Ask curiosity questions: “Why is the bike not working?”
  5. Redirect the child to purposeful activity without avoiding the conflict
  6. Don’t force a child to share, instead consider asking questions such as:
    • “When do you want to share?”
    • “When can Tommy have a turn?”
    • “How will Tommy know when you are done?”
  7. Take the time to teach kids
    • Role play with puppets or your child’s favorite figurines
    • Find a calm time to visit an earlier difficult moment. Don’t address the issue in the heat of the moment.
    • Read books together and invite dialogue. You might want to check out Books to Help An Angry Child.
    • Research ways to Teach Kindness to Kids
  8. Take time for gratitude
    • Share an appreciation with a child each day at mealtime or bedtime
    • Create a gratitude jar to add to and access every day
    • Check out these children’s books to teach gratitude


Conflict Resolution Resources

  • Helping Toddlers Resolve Conflict bt Janet Lansbury
  • Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen
  • Setting the Peace Table by I Heart Montessori
  • Teaching Peace in a Montessori Classroom 
  • The Peace Table by Fairy Dust Teaching
  • Problem Solving Techniques from How We Montessori

Kids are ripe for learning effective methods of communication. Guiding them is not easy because it requires looking internally before we can move forward helping children. These approaches take months and years of practice before truly kicking in and feeling natural (at least for me). So, hang in there, and let me know how it goes.

Marnie

Tagged With: Communication, Positive Parenting

About Marnie Craycroft

Marnie hails from Maine where she spent summers buried in sand and winters buried in snow. She is the daughter of a nearly four decade veteran of the public school systems. Teaching has always been a part of her life. She founded Carrots Are Orange in 2010.

Carrots Are Orange is a Montessori learning and living website for parents and teachers.

Marnie graduated from Wesleyan University in 1999 with a BA in Economics. She spent nearly a decade working in investment management. In 2006, she earned her MA in business from the University of Washington’s Foster School of Business.

Marnie moved to the west coast in 1999 and currently lives in Boulder with her husband and three sons. She is Montessori trained. Her work has been featured on Apartment Therapy, Buzzfeed, PBS Kids, BabyCenter, the Melissa & Doug blog, Huffington Post, and WhattoExpect.com. Besides writing, passions include running (usually after her three sons), photography, and outdoor adventures.

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